I’m glad that you’re discussing shame and male sexuality, Thomas P Seager, PhD. This is a subject that I definitely want to explore more, but as you note, I do focus on my own experience, since I am a woman, and that’s all I have to go on.
But I do look forward to exposing the issues that men also deal with in our shame-filled society when it comes to sex. We all deal with shame. That’s a fact.