I’m sorry to hear about the way men took advantage because of your beauty, but I had similar bad experiences as a young woman. It was like, take this beautiful, naive thing with extreme daddy issues and throw her out into the world (and the wolves).

I had no idea what power I wielded with my beauty and instead let myself get hurt again and again. I had trouble navigating the terrain with all these men approaching me, seemingly so nice. They weren’t.

That I became a dominatrix was in part revenge — though I learned from that as well. You can’t be a vengeful domme and be very good at it. It’s better just to learn to have good boundaries and protect oneself, which I ultimately did.

Again, thank you for your comment. It’s helped me dig deeper into my own experience, and I’m grateful to you for that.

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