To begin, I’m glad that you look out for men, women and children. This is something we should all be doing.

Now, let’s circle back to what I wrote: “As women, if we don’t look out for ourselves, no one else will.”

If you read carefully you will see that I did not say that no one else has ever looked out for me.

I do think that as people — men and women — the people best equipped to look out for ourselves is ourselves.

Some of us are lucky to have people who support us. I happen to have an amazing partner now who helps me out a lot. He looks out for me. But I ultimately have to take care of myself. I have to look out for myself at the end of the day. If I expect him to do everything for me, that becomes a problem of codependency and one adult taking care of an adult child.

That said, I’m not quite sure about the logic of moving to another country because I allegedly believe no one else is looking out for me, or never has. So is the assumption that if I am to solely take care of myself this will work better in another country? Which country? Please be specific.

I complete agree that everyone has difficulties. We all have challenges in life. Because I am female, however, I am best equipped to write about women’s difficulties. And even more specifically: I am best equipped to write about privileged white women’s difficulties. A woman with less money and more children, and a harder job — she wouldn’t even have the time to be enjoying herself out dating like I did.

Are we to assume you mean that men have difficulties too? Again could you please be specific, as I might just find something important to write about there as well.

And also it would be awesome if you could give some specifics as to how I should be more accountable for my actions, because it’s hard to understand what you mean without an example.

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