While I completely agree that gynecologists can be extremely judgmental about a patient’s sexuality, when I had my IUD inserted, it hurt like HELL. And it was inserted by a lovely, friendly, compassionate female doctor.

Like it hurt so bad that I still have it in me, 10 years later, because I’m afraid to go get it taken out.

I had my children via C-section, so the doctor has to ripen my cervix to remove it. I was told the process will hurt and so I’m avoiding it.

That said, I did have a male gynecologist slut-shame me at 16 years old for not being a virgin anymore and I’ve also confronted difficulty discussing my reproductive health with a female gynecologist when she found out that I was not having sex in a monogamous relationship.

Doctors live in our same society and so they’re susceptible to the same backward beliefs. And unlike therapists, they’re not doing their inner work to get over all their judgments so they won’t project their beliefs system onto their patients.

They’re also nothing more than highly skilled technicians. So yes, I’ve also had my body treated a bit like an automobile being worked on by a mechanic.

Nevertheless, sorry for your experience. Sending love.

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