With all due respect, this is really a question that only the most privileged women can ask of themselves. Staying home to take care of the kids is unfeminist? Why? Because having a career is the only way a woman can live up to her true potential?
That’s simply not true. Raising children is a noble cause. And besides, if a mother has the independent resources not to have to work for a living, it’s less a question of whether she’s a feminist or not and simply an example of her extreme privilege.
When I was lucky enough to be stay-home mom, I didn’t feel unfeminist — I felt entitled.
Now that I’m divorced and therefore *have to* work, this is not an example of my feminism but is a question of survival.
I often have to take jobs that have nothing to do with my career aspirations. I need to make money to put food on the table.
The fact that I now have to go out to earn a living as a mom also shows my economic insecurity and therefore how I’m more at risk of suffering the disadvantages of being female.
Same goes with how I clean my own house. Doing so doesn’t make me any less of a feminist. It just means I don’t have the resources to pay another woman to do it.
I think there are deeper issues at play here.